The Best Couples' Sex Toys

If you’re new to the kinky side of life, knowing where to start can feel overwhelming, especially when it comes to couples' sex toys. That’s why the Lovense Gemini Vibrating Nipple Clamps (8/10, WIRED Recommends) is the perfect introduction.

The Gemini takes nipple play to new heights thanks to its ability to do what fingers and mouths can’t do: vibrate, making it great for newbies and nipple play enthusiasts. It’s also hands-free and app-controlled, so once you clamp your nipples, you can let your partner take control of your pleasure. While not the most discreet couples' sex toy, a bulky sweater can easily keep your secret safe if you're into public play.

Made of silicone and ABS plastic. Great for all bodies.

This bullet vibe, with its slightly angled head for perfect precision in pinpointing individual spots, didn’t appear to have any major standout qualities at first glance. I was wrong. Open the box, and you'll find that it includes a finger sleeve that actually fits multiple finger sizes. With a few drops of water-based lube, this gem can be used on or in any part of the body, either when you’re alone, having one of those hot, no-end-in-sight masturbation sessions, or if you’re with a partner and you want to bring them to the very brink of pleasure as a tease. With its five powerful intensities and seven patterns, waterproof rating, and 90-minute run time, it’s the perfect little buddy to add to your couples' sex toy drawer.

Made of silicone. Great for all bodies.

The Luxus Couples Vibrator (8/10, WIRED Recommends) requires some finagling to set up, but once you get past that, you're able to experience a very unique sex toy. It’s made up of the LuxHer (a clitoral vibrator) and the LuxHim (a vibrating cock ring), and each one brings an important component to the equation.

Thanks to the magnet in the LuxHim and the sensor in the LuxHer, the two react to each other. For example, once my partner and I have our corresponding devices attached to ourselves, when my partner moves, my clitoral vibrator follows suit; when he slows down his movements, my vibrator slows down too. While it may sound fairly high-tech—because it kinda is—it’s something that, with a few rounds of practice, you’ll get down to a science. And when you do, it will be worth it, because it’s a lot of fun, both physically and emotionally. You essentially become one person with the Luxus, which may or may not be something you’ve been looking for in a couple’s toy.

Made of body-friendly silicone and ABS plastic. Best for couples where one partner has a penis, and the other has a vulva.

I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve strapped on a dildo during partnered sex, but for many people I know, it’s a regular component of partnered play. What I love about the Vibrating Silicone Pegging Kit is that you don’t need to go searching for parts, because it’s all right there. You get the adjustable harness, two dildos with insertable lengths of five inches and six inches—the latter of which can easily be turned into a vibrator by popping a bullet vibrator into the hole. You also get three O-rings, which are necessary to keep the dildo/vibrator perfectly in place.

My submissive personality doesn’t make me the best pegger—I need to up my dom game—but I do stand by this pegging kit as being the most beginner-friendly, as well as great for those who aren’t newbies but want a kit that has it all. It’s worth noting that despite the size of the bullet vibe, it delivers three intensities and seven patterns, giving both you and your partner a decent variety of sensations while the wonders of pegging unfold.

Made of body-friendly silicone and ABS plastic. Best for couples interested in anal play.

Dame tries to keep things simple, so there's no app or remote connectivity here. And yet, the Dame Hug (9/10, WIRED Recommends) quickly became one of my partner’s and my favorite toys. The Hug is a vibrating cock ring that comfortably wraps around the penis with its flexible (and pinchable!) arms, something you don’t usually find in cock rings. The main body of the toy targets the clitoris, keeping it stimulated with five intensity levels and five patterns. Having tried many cock rings in my life, the Hug easily sits above the rest, as its design is focused on pleasure for both partners. It also stayed put during various position changes.

Made of medical-grade silicone. Best for couples where one partner has a penis, and the other has a vulva.

If taking your couples play into public spaces is something you have in mind, then it’s necessary to find a wearable vibrator that doesn’t just hit all the right spots, but is actually comfortable. That’s where the Lovense Ferri Panty Vibrator (8/10, WIRED Recommends) comes in. The Ferri is designed to fit into the folds of the labia, unlike other panty vibrators that are flat and merely sit against it. The Ferri delivers vibrations from every inch of its surface, but the most intense vibes are located in the peak of the product, which fits snuggly against the clitoris.

This isn’t exactly a toy for anyone trying couples' sex toys for the first time—your best bet is to start with the Dame Eva, but when you’re ready to be adventurous, this is a perfect step in that direction. It’s whisper-quiet, 100 percent waterproof, and the Lovenese app makes controlling the Ferri a breeze, no matter how close or far apart you and your partner might be.

Made of silicone and ABS plastic. Best for clitoral stimulation.